How To Talk To Your Crush at a School Dance
How to Get Your Crush to Dance With You at a School Dance
You’re at a school dance, and you see your crush. There are butterflies in your stomach, and you want to approach them. If you didn’t come with your crush, you might feel intimidated about talking to them or asking them to dance. This is completely normal, and a bunch of your classmates are probably dealing with the same thing! If you don’t want to directly ask your crush to dance, talk and flirt with them, and maybe they’ll ask you instead. However if you’re feeling bold, you can just go ahead and ask your crush to dance!
Hang out with your friends.Before you approach your crush, you want to ease into the dance and get comfortable. Talking with your friends is a great way to spend the first part of the dance. It also can show your crush if they are watching that you are a social and friendly person.
Have confident body language.Even if you are nervous at the prospect of talking to your crush, try to have confident body language from the beginning of the dance to the end of the night. Stand up straight, smile, and don’t try to hide yourself. People naturally attracted to confident and positive body language, and if your crush sees you looking uncomfortable or worried they might not want to dance.
- Even if you feel nervous, smiling and standing up straight can actually trick your body into feeling calmer and more confident. That’s why even if you are nervous, you should fake it till you make it.
- Try not to cross your arms or use other closed body language that hides your body. Also try not to hang your head; instead keep it up with your chin level.
- Also try not to fidget or anxiously tap your feet, as this will make you look nervous.
Dance with your friends.If you are comfortable dancing, dance with your friends at the beginning of the dance. This will show your crush that you like dancing, and may be open to the idea of dancing with them.
- Try not to dance with another guy or girl. If it seems like you like someone else, your crush will be less likely to dance with you.
Catch your crush’s eye.If you see your crush looking in your direction, look at them and smile. Only do this if your crush is nearby or if they are looking at or near you. If you stare at them intensely, that might come across more creepy than cute.
- Making this non-verbal contact is a good first step because it opens up the window for them to come over and say hello, or even ask you to dance!
Approaching Your Crush
Get near them.If your crush is on the other side of the room, move to the general vicinity they are in. If they are sitting down, go sit down at a nearby table with some friends. If you and your friends are friends with your crush, join them where they are sitting, and try to make sure that you are sitting next to your crush. If they are dancing, dance with a group of your friends either in a group next to your crush, or join their group of friends.
- Hanging out near your crush before you approach them makes going up and talking to them less abrupt and more natural.
Say hi to your crush.Say hello to your crush and ask them how they are doing. Say something like, “Hey Jamie, how are you?” or “Hey, what’s up?” If you’ve never talked to your crush before, introduce yourself.
- If at this point, your crush’s friends and your friends are hanging out together, it should be easy talk to him or her.
- If your crush is with his or her friends, approach them with some of your friends. This will make approaching your crush easier and won’t put you on the spot. While your friends talk to your crush’s friends, you can talk to your crush.
- If you and your friends don’t know your crush’s friends well enough to talk with them, wait to talk to your crush when they are alone getting food, checking their phone or coming back from the bathroom.
Compliment your crush.Giving your crush a compliment is a good way of keeping the conversation going. Since it’s a dance, your crush probably put a lot of time into their appearance, so complimenting them will make them feel happy that someone noticed.
- Say something like. “You look nice” or “I like your dress.”
Talk about the dance.If you don’t know what else to talk about with your crush, just talk about the dance!
- You could ask them how they are enjoying the dance by saying something like, “So are you having fun?”
- You could also talk about something specific about the dance by saying something like, “I really like the decorations that they put up!” or “Have you tried the punch? It’s really good.”
Keep the conversation short if you’re dancing.If you and your friends are on the dancefloor near your crush and you start talking to your crush, don’t go on and on. A lot of people talk on the dancefloor while dancing, but the dancefloor isn’t the right place for a long conversation, since your crush might be more in the mood to dance than to talk.
- If your crush seems like they are into the conversation, by all means keep talking. However, if you are doing most of the talking, keep in mind that your crush may be more in the mood to dance.
Give non-verbal cues that you want to dance.If you are talking to your crush while you both are sitting down, allow for pauses in the conversation and look over to the dancefloor as you pause. This is a non-verbal way of indicating that you are interested in dancing. You can also tap your feet or move a little to the music to show that you like the song. If your crush wants to dance with you, they may pick up on these cues and ask you to dance.
- If you are talking to your crush while dancing, a pause is also a good way to give them a window to ask you to dance.
- Giving non-verbal cues is a good method for girls to use if they don’t feel comfortable asking a guy to dance. Since the societal norm is for boys to ask girls to dance, girls may prefer to use this method of non-verbally communicating that they want to dance.
Asking Your Crush to Dance
Wait until the right song.If your crush hasn’t already asked you to dance, it may be time to take matters into your own hands. If you are sitting and talking to your crush, wait until a song comes on that you want to dance to before asking them. For example, you may wait for a slow song or a song that has a good rhythm.
- If you are already dancing, you may not have as big of a window to ask them to dance, since your conversation may be shorter. If you absolutely hate the song playing, or you feel like it’s too fast to dance to with your crush, try to keep the conversation going until the next song comes on.
Ask your crush.When a song comes on you like, ask your crush, “Do you want to dance?” Keep the tone of your voice light and casual, and make sure to smile as you ask them.
- Always ask, even if you are dancing near each other. Unless your crush starts dancing close to you, don’t go up and start dancing in front of or against them. Asking them is cute and polite, whereas starting to dance up in their space can be pushy and creepy.
- If you’re a girl, don’t let society’s norms stop you from asking your crush to dance! There’s a good chance that they will say yes, and be flattered that you asked.
Encourage them if they are nervous.Many people get nervous about dancing, so your crush may be hesitant to dance even if they like you. If they say something like, "I'm not really good at dancing", offer to teach them some moves that are easy to follow. Even showing them over-the-top moves like "the sprinkler" is a good way to be goofy and get them comfortable. Your crush will feel less pressure if they know that you aren't expecting them to look suave or cool.
- School dances often play songs that have specific steps. If your crush doesn't want to dance to regular songs, wait until one comes on like the electric slide that follows a routine, and offer to show them how to dance to it.
- If you don't know any specific moves or dance steps, you can also just say, "It's ok, I'm a terrible dancer so I won't judge." This is a good way of making your crush feel more at ease and willing to dance.
Keep a respectable distance at first.If your crush says yes, start dancing with them. However, don’t get too close. If you are slow dancing, keep about a foot between yourselves. If you are dancing to a fast song, still try to keep some space between you two.
Read your crush’s body language.Try to see if your crush is enjoying the dance and wants to get closer. For instance, your crush could close some of the distance between the two of you, or if you are slow dancing they could wrap their arms to hold you closer. They also may look you in the eye and smile, which would be a good indication that they want to get closer.
Get closer.You’ve been dancing at a respectful distance. However, you may see that your crush is enjoying the dance and seems like they would be comfortable getting closer. If you are slow dancing, hold them a little closer to you. If you are dancing to a fast song, move and inch or two nearer to them.
Assess the situation at the end of the song.Once the song ends, see if your crush wants to dance for another song. If they stay close to you, or start dancing as soon as the new song comes on, it means that they would like to keep dancing. If they move away or give you a hug, it could mean that they enjoyed the dance, but they want to take a break.
- You can always ask, “Do you want to keep dancing?” if you’re not sure how they are feeling.
QuestionWhat do you do if he/she runs away from you?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIf your crush seems to be avoiding you, then unfortunately it seems like they don't want to dance with you. If you notice them running away from you, don't pursue them or do anything that could seem aggressive.Thanks!
QuestionIf my crush dances with another girl then how while he dance with mewikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerJust because your crush dances with another girl, it doesn't mean that he won't want to dance with you. A lot of people at dances have multiple dance partners throughout the night. Still try to approach and talk to him, and if he seems into the conversation, use non-verbal cues to hint that you'd like to dance with him, or just downright ask him to dance!Thanks!
QuestionWhat if he wants to talk about something inappropriate, or starts an inappropriate conversation?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIf your crush starts saying inappropriate things, it's best to stop talking to them and leave the situation. Even if you still like them, recognize that what they are saying makes you uncomfortable and is not appropriate or acceptable. Even if they are older than you, remember that you have the power to decide if you want to stay or if you want to leave.Thanks!
QuestionShould my partner and I kiss at the dance?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerYou can kiss if the moment is right and you are both interested in doing it. You definitely don't have to kiss though.Thanks!
- Your crush may turn down your invitation to dance. It could be that they like someone else, don’t like to dance, or were just taken by surprise that you asked. Try not to take it personally.
- Keep the dance fun. When you’re dancing with your crush, smile and keep the mood light.
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